There have been SO MANY wonderful posts and comments this week. You ladies are seriously amazing and are showing me (and whomever else comes across this site) the many layers to being a Plane Jane. I have to say there was one comment that struck me deeply this week. I think I was so struck because it came from someone on the ‘other side’. From someone who has raised their children and now they are young adults. One of my biggest fears as a Plane Jane is that somehow growing up the way my children are will scar them– leave them having ‘issues’ when they are older or resenting my husband and I for choosing this for them. I have an immense amount of guilt each time we are not able to do something like a ‘traditional family’ would; or I let my daughter watch another episode of Go Diego Go! while I get her brother out of the bath, or when we say good night to daddy via Facetime (God bless the iPhone). There is a voice nagging constantly and it is ugly and it makes me feel awful and I decided after reading the wonderful words from a wiser Plane Jane to tell that voice to shut it.
Here is why:
|As the wife of an airline captain, our four kids were raised with daddy missing birthdays and baseball games, sleepovers and even campouts. We made the decision EARLY on that we would not move every time his base changed. Deciding to commute took a toll on our family, but it also was a blessing. We have four grown children who have seen places in the world that I have not! They are each strong and confident and can navigate the globe whenever they want. They are adventurous and understand the value of making your time together COUNT! They have learned that the dates on a calendar don’t dictate when a family celebrates, or what those celebrations look like. We ski on December 25th and have Christmas on the 27th when daddy gets home!More than anything else though, this not-so-normal life has taught each of us the value of “being there.”|
I am deciding today that my kids will be like Teri’s kids. They will be explorers, they will be confident, they will NOT let the calendar or other people’s expectations dictate anything about who they are and how they behave. But above all they will learn to VALUE ‘BEING THERE’ really making the time they have count.
See, I have been failing miserably to see the VALUE in the life we are living– what amazing characteristics will my children posses BECAUSE of their ‘different’ childhood? I am not sure, but I know that this mamma is going to start reinforcing every positive element of our lives, I am going to look at our circumstances with new eyes. While it is hard, yes, it is not impossible to give my children everything they need and more.
What other values are unique to the life of a Plane Jane that we can reinforce in our children?