Saving...I am so excited to introduce a wonder of a woman, Ms. Rebecca. Her story is real and powerful and seriously gave me goosebumps when I read it. Mamma’s share her story– everyone knows someone who could benefit from these wise words<3
I am a SAHM of 3 boys and work part-time from home as a graphic designer. My husband travels most weeks Monday through Friday. Our house is the definition of chaos and I am always looking for ways to reign some of it in.
I remember before I had kids I was spending time with my sister and her four kids, and at one point my youngest nephew did something and my sister kinda lost it. Yelling like crazy at him. I remember thinking, “Wow, she doesn’t have very much patience. I’m sure once I have kids I’ll have much more patience than that”.
(Ohhh Rebecca, I am soooo guilty of those ‘before I had kids’ judgements!)
Fast forward a few years and I now have three boys of my own ages 5, 2 and 9 months, and I think most people would see my reaction to when one of my boys acts up and think “Wow, she doesn’t have much patience”. I often marvel at how much I yell at my kid and how
I always thought I’d be different…
more patient,
more controlled…
better.
(humbled by your honesty…)
In trying to figure out how to be more patient and to be a better mom to my children, lately I’ve been wondering how different I’d be if my husband didn’t travel so much. Since my middle child was 6 months old (2 years ago), my husband has traveled Monday through Friday probably 75% of his time. There have been stretches of a month or two (after moving out-of-state and after the birth of our third son) where he was home but often he goes months at a time being gone every week. The result for me is that I spend a lot of time burnt out, sleep deprived and on edge.
I can’t change his job, so now the challenge is to find what else I can change that might make it better. Right now I’m looking at trying to keep the house cleaner (less chaos, less frustration), going to bed earlier, and trying to make more time for myself. I’ve also got a couple parenting books on order (because I’ve clearly got all the time in the world to read…) and am thinking of trying meditation (because I’ve got all this quiet time). Whatever works.
Something has to change.
Because I want to be the mom I always thought I’d be,
the one my boys deserve.
Plane Janes, how TRUE are these words!?!
If you have ever wanted to be a better mamma to your kids and like Rebecca are doing things to make it happen~ share with us why and how in the comments below <3
