I have totally been where you were yesterday! Ever Mom has. We put ourselves in the position of trying to be Super Mom and beat ourselves up when can’t live up to that expectation. When I catch myself having a pity party I say to myself…Okay Drama Queen it is not all about poor you! My “angel” or guilt conscience (however you want to look at it) reminds me of someone
I know that is going through a much tougher time and usually gets me back on track. Don’t feel bad about yesterday. Remind yourself you do have more good days than bad ones!
Peggy,
You are so right! A reminder in the moment is so key. Sometimes my emotions get the best of me. I love that your angel reminds you to keep it in perspective– I love that image!
how do you even have the time for a website ? i hardly have enough time to brush my teeth at night or comb my hair or use the washroom without being interrupted halfway … LOL
Anyway, boy am I ever glad I’m not alone in this. I am a proud but exhausted stay at home mom, my husband works in the Alberta oil sands for 2–3 months at a time. I have 3 kids, ages 9,5,2, all girls. I have a big family dog, chickens and a hamster. I take care of the dog while the kids have been assigned the chicken coop, hamster cage and helping out with their little baby sister. I bake bread and cookies every day for their lunch, take care of some of the bills, maintain the property, and still manage to look decent when i walk out the door… I brush off all compliments and questions with a smile and tell them all that Im blessed to have a hard working husband and that its actually harder on him to be away than on me… inside i want to scream!
The older siblings are starting to fight a lot over everything and its driving me NUTS. yes, they share the room but the constant teasing and yelling has got to stop. the oldest also wants to take charge of everything. i explain to her many times to let her younger sister do things on her own but its just not clicking in.
last night, my oldest told me summer is boring without her dad … as tired as i am, i dont know how to cope with that, i know its not the same without daddy home but im only doing the best i can. she has sleep overs all the time, she goes to camp, she has every game in the world, we watch movies together … i tell her to appreciate these things and stop wanting more … it is what it is and when daddy gets home, we have lots of fun family time!
I sometimes feel like im a bad mother because Im constantly reminding the kids to help out and stop arguing with eachother and go play in your room!!! I tell them ‘If you dont start to get along with eachother, we are moving closer to daddy so mommy doesnt have to take care of you guys all on her own!‘
Ahhhh … thank god for the glass of wine I can at least enjoy before hitting the sack. Not to mention, lately Ive been so tired that I would just pass out without even finishing that glass.
Any thoughts ??? I neeeed more stories!
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I have totally been where you were yesterday! Ever Mom has. We put ourselves in the position of trying to be Super Mom and beat ourselves up when can’t live up to that expectation. When I catch myself having a pity party I say to myself…Okay Drama Queen it is not all about poor you! My “angel” or guilt conscience (however you want to look at it) reminds me of someone
I know that is going through a much tougher time and usually gets me back on track. Don’t feel bad about yesterday. Remind yourself you do have more good days than bad ones!
Love you!
Peggy,
You are so right! A reminder in the moment is so key. Sometimes my emotions get the best of me. I love that your angel reminds you to keep it in perspective– I love that image!
how do you even have the time for a website ? i hardly have enough time to brush my teeth at night or comb my hair or use the washroom without being interrupted halfway … LOL
Anyway, boy am I ever glad I’m not alone in this. I am a proud but exhausted stay at home mom, my husband works in the Alberta oil sands for 2–3 months at a time. I have 3 kids, ages 9,5,2, all girls. I have a big family dog, chickens and a hamster. I take care of the dog while the kids have been assigned the chicken coop, hamster cage and helping out with their little baby sister. I bake bread and cookies every day for their lunch, take care of some of the bills, maintain the property, and still manage to look decent when i walk out the door… I brush off all compliments and questions with a smile and tell them all that Im blessed to have a hard working husband and that its actually harder on him to be away than on me… inside i want to scream!
The older siblings are starting to fight a lot over everything and its driving me NUTS. yes, they share the room but the constant teasing and yelling has got to stop. the oldest also wants to take charge of everything. i explain to her many times to let her younger sister do things on her own but its just not clicking in.
last night, my oldest told me summer is boring without her dad … as tired as i am, i dont know how to cope with that, i know its not the same without daddy home but im only doing the best i can. she has sleep overs all the time, she goes to camp, she has every game in the world, we watch movies together … i tell her to appreciate these things and stop wanting more … it is what it is and when daddy gets home, we have lots of fun family time!
I sometimes feel like im a bad mother because Im constantly reminding the kids to help out and stop arguing with eachother and go play in your room!!! I tell them ‘If you dont start to get along with eachother, we are moving closer to daddy so mommy doesnt have to take care of you guys all on her own!‘
Ahhhh … thank god for the glass of wine I can at least enjoy before hitting the sack. Not to mention, lately Ive been so tired that I would just pass out without even finishing that glass.
Any thoughts ??? I neeeed more stories!