I have been thinking a lot lately about ‘life’ I am not sure if that is common to everyone, or more common for Plane Janes since we are constantly working on maximizing the moments of life when our families are together.
Anyway, I have always been the type of person that let life happen– not that I was not engaged-but I seriously think that there were a lot of wonderful things that can happen and so whatever does happen must be the best thing for me right now. For example, my hubs and I didn’t really every ‘plan’ to have kids, we just one day (without ANY thought about how hard babies were) decided that we were open to the idea and (of course) blamo– preggers that very month. I know you type A mamma’s out there are probably pulling your hair out right now:) I’m just not a planner. I don’t plan meals, I don’t plan much on trips I take, I don’t have decorating plans for our next home.…I just sorta work things out as they come. Now, I am not saying this is the best, or smartest way to live– I just can’t really help that is the way I operate for the most part. Do I think I have missed opportunities because of my lack of ‘planning’? I don’t know…I am sure I have. Do I think that my life would be better if I had a linear idea of what I wanted to come next and then acted on that? I don’t know. I can’t imagine what my life would be like had I done that. Does having a plan cause more stress than not having a plan? I don’t know the answer to that either. BUT what I have realized the past few days is that in the very least, the BIG things that I want for myself and for my family MUST be on my radar. I must define those BIG goals that I want to accomplish. I think focusing on the GOAL for me is enough to patch a haphazard plan together on how to get there and make things happen. I will never be the one to give you a TOP 10 WAYS TO PLAN FOR YOUR LIFE post. BUT what I can offer is encouragement– if you are a planner or not– THINK BIG. Have big goals for your life.
So often as a Plane Jane I would convince myself that my big plans were ridiculous because life would not allow the time/energy/money/confidence etc. to get there.
I know for a fact that is a BIG FAT UGLY LIE.
I swear to you, the moment you write down your BIG goal; even if you are like me and don’t plot the most direct route on how you are going to get there, you will arrive where you wanted to be. Doors will open, things will shift and even if it is not exactly the way you imagined-it will happen.
So ask yourself, what have you always wanted to do? What have you thought about, perhaps obsessed about and then pushed out of your mind because you didn’t think you could do it? Starting a business? Starting a blog? Going back to school? Quitting your job to stay home with your kids? Training for a Marathon?
I have had a goal for many, many, many years. I was always too scared, to insecure in my abilities etc. to ever go right at it but it has always been there– burning inside me AND I am telling you, today my roundabout lack of life plan has once again set me right down where I wanted to be.
I double dog dare you to put it here, put out your BIG FAT DREAM in black and white.
(if this feels a little scary that is GOOD, that means that it is the kind of BIG thing I am talking about!)
As soon as you do, things will start moving…Don’t let the fact that you are a Plane Jane, or a tired mom get in the way of putting it out there. You deserve to get there. You CAN get there. If things work for this plan-less lady, I promise it will work for you.